Our heart never lies. It feels and sees the TRUTH even though we may not be ready to accept it. Actually, we don’t have the slightest idea this “other” truth exists, the more so, we don’t know we CAN actually connect to our heart and ask for the truth.
It is so important to feel and speak FROM YOUR HEART instead of naturally feeling and speaking from your MIND. I say “naturally” because this is what we do without even thinking about it too much. We have all our answers ready. We have our views and opinions packaged, “in the shelf” ready to be shared, confirmed and defended in case of an argument.
But what if we drop this usual practice and connect to our heart first? And ask her what she really wants and what she really feels?
We may find our heart has a very different perspective on the matter. Answers will be different from the ones our minds have.
When we access the actual feelings in our heart and speak from that place, our voice is different. Our intention is different. Our attitude is different. And our energy is different. So we can then create a different outcome. And different relationship. A loving, truthful relationship with ourselves and with the others. By asking the heart first.
When you encounter a problem or a conflict, try connecting with your heart first, avoiding know-it-all mind solutions. Ask what your heart really feels and wants. Then speak it out loud. Verbalize it. You’ll be surprised: the tension is gone, the hurt, the resentment will be gone. And not only you will naturally feel love towards your “adversary” but also make them open their heart to you…
That’s what is possible when we allow our heart to lead us. It is the safest and the most direct way to the hearts of others. And sure enough, you would be permitted to enter this sacred space without having to fight or to suffer.
Being totally honest with the feelings of your heart and expressing it simply and lovingly could make any block of ice melt between you and somebody you love.
Honesty of the heart may look simple but it is incredibly powerful. Truth of your heart conquers any logic and ideas of the mind. We often get fooled by the mind and tend to believe the stories it’s telling us about what we feel, need and want. Even for somebody very conscious and aware of their own state of being it takes a lot of courage, willingness and ability to discern between the mind and the heart. This is because of the inertia that we’ve mastered so well: we tend to believe that we “know” what we want, we “know” what we feel and we “know” what we expect. But it is only the view of the mind. Because it is the purpose of the mind to think and immediately give have answers to any problem. If we turn to the heart, we really need to listen, to ask and to trust. That means, being humble enough to hear and accept a different answer than expected.
So how is it done in practice?
If something frustrates you and you are in a conflict, ask yourself: what do I really want in this situation? Never mind the self image, or the role, or your expectations of the situation or a person. What does my heart really want? What is the real feeling I’m after? You’ll probably find out that you simply desire… to be loved. To feel important. To feel safe. To be cherished. And such answers can only be received when you make an inventory with your heart. The answer you receive from your heart space, may disarm any adversary and it would also allow you to connect to the hearts of others instead of fighting with the mind and losing your energy and the whole point.
Try practicing talking to your precious heart today. You’ll be pleasantly surprised
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